When I spend time with Marissa Bridge and Joe Lamport on Long Island, the sounds of the birds and the breeze rustling the leaves, the grasses, the sleepy pace, strolls to the water’s edge, the big kitchen of their beautiful house, they all remind me of an ideal of childhood that never happened.
Many Eastern philosophies state that yearning of any kind: for the past, for an imagined and specific future, for a lover’s arms, they all cause suffering and are disguised but thwarted impulses to merge with the divine. The pain of yearning can be solved by merely stepping from the needs of the individual personality into gratitude for the majesty of this universe, for the fleeting time on earth.
I resist nostalgia because it’s unproductive, but nostalgia is exactly what I feel when I am out there with Joe and Marissa, like stepping into a loving home where the most important thing in the world is found in a single moment on a summer day without a care in the world.
Remembering innocence and all who were here and now gone. For my mother, Jacqueline Urdang, whose favorite flower was the Iris.
Marissa’s is the orchid. She’s seen from the upstairs guest bedroom window, carrying one to her painting studio. Click here for a previous post on her works: A Life In Flowers Gratitude to Marissa and Joe for making their home a welcomed place for my heart.